He needs help if he's to learn to climax in your vagina. Your boyfriend has delayed ejaculation (DE) or ‘retarded ejaculation’ (RE) – a condition in which the guy cannot manage to come while inside a woman. We’ve also managed it when I masturbate him, but I do long to feel him come inside me. He did tell me about this problem from the start and I thought I’d be satisfied because he is wonderful sexually in every other way, but the only way he can come is by masturbating. We can have sex, but he does tend to go soft eventually. My boyfriend cannot come when we are having intercourse.